
华南师范大学心理学院/心理应用研究中心, 广州 510631
收稿日期:
2017-08-05出版日期:
2018-12-15发布日期:
2018-10-30通讯作者:
黎莉E-mail:liuxuelan@m.scnu.edu.cn基金资助:
*广东省教育科研规划项目“家庭结构与家庭养育方式对中学生自我意识的影响”(2010tjk306);广州市人文社科重点研究基地“幸福广州心理服务与辅导基地”资助项目Self-expansion in close relationships
LAI Xiaolu, LIU Xuelan, LI Li(
School of Psychology /Center for Studies of Psychological Application, South China Normal University, Guangzhou 510631, China
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2017-08-05Online:
2018-12-15Published:
2018-10-30Contact:
LI Li E-mail:liuxuelan@m.scnu.edu.cn摘要/Abstract
摘要: 自我扩张理论认为, 人们通过将他人的资源、观点和认同纳入自我来实现自我扩张, 增强完成目标的效能感。该理论作为动机领域的新热点, 研究多以亲密关系为背景。现有研究主要采用实验法和问卷法, 以自我扩张动机和将他人纳入自我为基点展开, 内容涉及择偶、关系质量、不忠、关系破裂和维持等方面。未来研究需进一步考察不同亲密关系类型、关系与非关系中自我扩张的运作机制, 以及亲密关系双方自我扩张的相互作用。
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